I think the best way to do flambe is with either a longer match or a multipurpose lighter which has a longer neck, so you have a good distance between your hand and the hot pan.
If you have, let's say, your microwave here, maybe that's not the best stove or not the best place to do flambe, because if the fire comes up, it might burn your microwave and you don't want that.
You don't wanna spit it back onto your plate in front of your date, and you're not about to flambe your esophagus, so your only choice is to keep it moving around in your mouth while sucking in air.